Tuesday
Jul112017

Hi,

It's been a long time since I posted on my webpage.  If you have any questions or want to talk or just vent, this is the place.  I'll get back to you ASAP.  You can also email me at susandobson@me.com.  Have a nice day...you deserve it!  

Friday
Nov062015

The GRIEF RECOVERY WORKSHOP

 Grief Support Group

Susan Dobson

Grief Specialist

The GRIEF RECOVERY WORKSHOP

Taught by Susan Dobson

 

The 4-Week Program will begin

Monday NOV 9TH

 

IT WILL BE 4 WEEKS LONG  9TH, 16TH, 23D, & 30TH

7 to 9 PM Saint Francis de Sales Parish Center

  • 13370 Valleyheart Dr. Sherman Oaks 91422

           

                 Cost $200.00 includes materials

 

The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses

 

Myths about grief:

 

  • •         Time heals all wounds
  • •         Replace the loss
  • •         Grieve alone
  • •         Be strong for others
  • •         Bury your feelings

 

Your feelings are normal and natural. The problem is that we have been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural.

 

Whether your loss is from:

 

  • •         Death
  • •         Divorce or end of a relationship
  • •         Loss of a career
  • •         Loss of trust
  • •         Loss of faith
  • •         Loss of safety
  • •         Loss of health

 

People say you have to let go and move on in your life, but they don’t tell you what you need to do to accomplish that. The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program not only makes that possible, but provides partnerships and guidance to ensure that it happens.

 

For further information call

Susan Dobson • Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®• 818 319-5912

www.susandobson.net

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Friday
Oct162015

Asking the Universe for help

How is the Universe going to know what we want if we don't set our intentions.  

Today, I will ask of the universe to help me form a conception of my life, the future that is exciting,  I will ask for help, to be shown how to let go of anything that is filled with anger, resentment, fear or trepidation.    I will ask to be gently guided to the next step that consciousness would have me take.  I will listen to the quiet voice inside of me, my G-D consciousness always directing me in the right direction, regardlesss of how the voices in my head, my EGO, may sound.  Always remembering that G-D is in my heart always moving me forward wanting for me the highest good and the highest good of all.   My EGO is in my head, never satisfied, always searching and wanting more...

Tuesday
Nov252014

Fear of success/ part one

The things in life which give us the most grief are the things we can’t control. Hoping you passed an exam, waiting for the phone to ring from that “special person” you just met, waiting for the phone to ring for that next big acting job you wanted. We fret over the “emotional risk” of success. Don’t be afraid of these small things in life. Save the emotions for happiness, make every day a successful day!

 

Here are some ways we tend to fall short:

We Refuse to Fail

Everyone says that we should fail often in order to become strong and resilient in our goals. They say that Babe Ruth hit a home run for every nine times he went to bat, Edison failed many attempts before he was successful with the light bulb. But if we are not interested in taking a fall and avoid emotional risk then we won’t fail. We’ll play it safe and stay in our comfort zone, which many of us do.

We Over Plan

Many of us are perfectionists, we want to get it right at all costs and that means that we stay in one place and never further our goals, never get out of our comfort zone! If everyone did this we wouldn’t have any doer’s in this world. Just attempting to do things without being too perfect is our goal.

We Avoid Hard Choices 

If we look down the narrow path with one direction for success we will surely fail. We need to be ready to divert our plan, from plan A to plan B and then to a plan undefined!

This single road to success is only good for emotional risk. This makes failure a certain thing. One that you may regret farther down the road. By putting the flexibility in our goal seeking we spread ourselves out on a wider playing field rather than a small tight raft with nowhere to go, insuring our immediate failure. We need to decide if something is worth the risk and be ready to say no to an idea even if we visit this later. Don’t be afraid to make hard choices that will most likely benefit you immediately than not.

We Cling to Our Ideas

We all have ideas from previous experiences, good and bad. Change is frightening and rightfully so. What if we make the wrong choice? We are here to make the wrong choices, nothing is perfect! We are humans and our mind is designed to fail, trial and error, persistence is key to success! Sacrificing our happiness for an old idea that didn’t work the first time but worked enough for a small change when if you pushed even a small bit you would have been a little more successful and either made a fool out of yourself or a hero. Take the chance and don’t worry about the emotional consequences.

 We pretend we’re Invincible 

We develop defense mechanisms that are not useful to us after a certain age. They worked when we were young but not anymore. We build up walls that look like we are in control and know all the answers but in reality these are insecurities and well-meaning people can see through this and not so well meaning people. We have all had small success and we stand firm with those small success. We neglect to ask ourselves harder questions and defer to a team of people to get another view point. This all to avoid the risk of failure.  We don’t seek counsel, there are many people of service, preachers, psychologists, mentors to name a few. If we don’t break through the barrier of self then there is no hope for us that are timid with our emotions emotions.

 Get out there and start a project, goal or just a new day! Go for the moon and you’ll hit the stars, some of us will get to the moon!

 

 

By Susan Dobson

 Life Coach

Wednesday
Nov122014

RELATING TO YOUR INNER CHILD

Riding on a tube behind a fast moving object was never my idea of fun–as least not within the past 20 years. But after much encouragement by friends I found myself, once again, back in the water and laughing as the rushing waves surrounded me. An exhilaration ran through me and soon I recognized this familiar feeling–one that originated in childhood memories.

You see, letting go of adult standards and giving yourself permission to have fun is one of the most nurturing acts an individual can do for themselves! 

Carry a Picture

We all have one…that childhood picture capturing us as careless and free. Carl Jung and other psychologists have long argued that everyone has an inner child—the playful, innocent part of yourself that lives in you. Our inner little boy or girl expresses the need for security, trust, nurturing, affection, and so on. This creative and playful part of you is the real version of yourself. Take a moment and ask yourself: How do you I feel about my inner child?

Nurturing your inner child in a healthy manner allows you to give and receive affection, as opposed to inability to trust, and being unable to be in touch with one’s feelings. In order to achieve the first example, we must nurture our inner child on a daily basis. Some additional examples may include writing a letter to your inner child from your adult self, engaging in real life activities that bring you back to your childhood, and allowing yourself to have freedom of expression.

Eat an Ice Cream Cone

Caring for your inner child actually takes a lot less work than fighting the idea of it. There are activities that can get you into the spirit of being a child such as hugging a stuffed animal, swinging on the swings at the park, or having an ice cream cone.

Increase Self Esteem and Awareness

It is important to nurture your inner child on a daily basis. Engaging in self-nurturing activities also helps when battling anxiety and depression. When you find yourself engaging in negative self talk, ask yourself if that’s the way you would talk to your inner child, or a close friend. In taking some of these suggestions, getting to know your inner child may increase your self esteem, and as a direct result, improve your relationships with others.

As I look back on my weekend of fun, I am reminded of the importance of venturing out of my comfort zone. The reminder that there is an inner child within us all was enough to reframe my take on what activities I can partake in. This year is one in which I challenge readers to take chances, venture outside of their comfort zone, and recognize that this is a life worth celebrating.